I am not having children
Since I can remember, I’ve always wanted to be a mom. My first job was a babysitter and camp counselor. Then I nannied for a couple in Germany for two years. My teens and twenties were full of taking care of other peoples kids and day dreaming about my own.
My twenties are now ten plus years behind me and the world is very, very different. So different in fact, that I have made the life changing decision to not bring new life into this world. Our environment, Covid, the world on the brink of war, inflation, dwindling resources, overwhelming gun violence in our schools and communities, and just the general disdain that humans seem to have for their fellow man- all of it scares the living shit out of me. Why would I ever want to bring new life into that mess?
I don’t and I won’t. I understand now more than ever, how important it is for my husband and I to look into other options to parenthood like adopting a child who needs love that is already here. So I’m happy to say we have started on the road of adoption through foster care, where so many amazing children need good loving homes and families.
We also wanted to relocate to a place that our children can grow up around others the same age community.
This map was helpful in determining where in the US the most children live. We are currently on the east coast where according to this map, have the least amount of children living in the cities. We would love to relocate to the west coast and it looks like California has a lot of children under 18 living in its population. Victorville, Santa Maria, and Salinas, California all come in top 5 for the cities with the most kids.